Where are the words? They should be flowing as freely as my tears did over the past week. I first met Dr. Beth on the day that I thought would be the last with my beloved companion, Missy, in whose big brown eyes my soul was reflected. It turns out that was not to be the day for a final gift.
Missy came into my life in a little village in the Adirondacks where she’d been running around on the loose for a few weeks. She had finally allowed a kind-hearted lady to approach and bring her into a nearby office and it was pure kismet that I came to adopt this scared “Heinz 57” stray. I took her home following my meeting with that woman and, after a one-week introduction to something called “love,” we named the dog Missy. She has been a companion and devoted friend for the past seventeen years.
They say cats have nine lives – well, Missy had that and more. Over the years, as her arthritis advanced, discussions began turning towards simply providing comfort. Being new to the Asheville area, I first heard about Dr. Beth Marchitelli in our local media. I was drawn to this gifted woman who specialized in palliative and end-of-life care. We met for a “quality of life” consultation in the privacy of my own home and, through palliative treatments, got an additional six months’ time with Missy. During this trying yet somehow rewarding period Beth was there for us with unwavering support. For Missy she provided pain relief and enhanced mobility and for me, peace-of-mind.
As Dr. Beth explained, the very word “euthanasia” has Greek origins with “eu” meaning “good” and Thanatos meaning “death.” In other words, “an easy or happy death” free of anxiety and pain.
When Missy’s legs could no longer bear her weight, we knew it was time. Her peaceful passing took place in the comfort of my own home with nurturing soft light, warm candles, calming scents and soothing sounds. I had private time with Missy to express my gratitude and say good-bye. Dr. Beth lovingly and painlessly allowed her to pass away free from pain and with dignity intact.
Where are the words? In the end, I think there are no words that can fully express my gratitude for Dr. Beth Marchitelli, Kelly Carter and the entire staff of 4 Paws Farewell.Kathy Seguin Benn
We were devastated to learn that the end of Zoe’s beautiful life was ominously upon us. I could only reflect on our many adventures together & my promise to her, that I would be there always, even through the end of this life we have shared together. Over the last 14 years I gave her the best I could, and she gave her best to me. As a Therapy Dog she brought so many smiles to everyone she encountered, and was working, running 5k races, & hiking, even into her final weeks. There are no words to describe what Zoe had meant to me, & I knew I had to keep my promise.
Dr Marchitelli had been to our home before, to meet & help us say goodbye to our beloved cat, Lotus Henry. She remembered our home & details about our animals which meant so much in our time of sadness. Our pets loved her and she eased our pain with dignity, respect, & a shared genuine love of animals. Peacefully, my beautiful girl passed, surrounded in love, in her favorite spot, with her sisters being able to say goodbye. I was so very thankful for the opportunity to keep my promise to Zoe! And thankful for such a compassionate & loving service that we have found in 4 Paws Farewell! From our entire family, both 2 & 4 legged, we send Dr. Marchitelli love & warmest regards.Leisa Young, Lynn Carlson, & the crew (Julip, Raya, Charlie, DJ Meow Mixx, & Willow)
Dear Dr. Marchitelli,
We are most grateful to you for your kind and caring way of helping us to see our beloved black shepherd Lobo off on that homebound journey as he slipped his earthly bonds. It is a true gift to Lobo that by coming here to his familiar surroundings you could help him to feel so safe and to be lovingly surrounded by his human and canine family as he took his leave. Your warmth helped us to honor Lobo and to let him go, and
your gentle touch made his death a very peaceful one. It was a remarkable time of mixing smiles from delightful memories and tears from the sorrow of loss all together into a quiet, heart-warming leave-taking, a good ending to a really good dog’s life. We thank you for all that you did for Lobo, and for us.
Dear Dr. Beth,
We are very happy to learn about the Sozo/Spirit Fund! I can’t imagine a better memorial gift than one that helps others who love their creature companions and want the most knowledgeable, loving and gentlest transitional care for them, when it is time. And, there is no one I would recommend to people who are helping their beloved creature companions through this time than Dr. Beth Marchitelli and 4 Paws Farewell. Her presence, skill, and services continue to be the soothing balm for the still powerful and difficult memories of the coming to a close of our time with our sweet Marley girl. Marley’s absence is still very loud in our lives, but we find great strength in knowing that Marley knew we did everything we could to keep her comfortable and enjoying her life for as long as we could. we were all happy to be able to just be at home together – no more trips to the vet! Marley was so welcoming of Dr. Beth’s presence and at ease with her care ~ and, we believe ~ grateful that her people had the practical and emotional support they needed, too!
We will always feel deep gratitude for the extraordinary kind, loving, gentle guidance and skillful services provided by Dr. Beth and 4 Paws Farewell, and want to share this gift with other families in their time of need. Please accept this donation to the Sozo/Spirit Fund in memory and honor of our dear sweet Marley.Leslie Bennis & Charles Johnson
Thank you for the most extraordinary experience with Pudge. I have never seen anything more peaceful in my life. I know he was happy to see you, and was ready to leave this earth behind and the pain that went with it.
By the way, I remember when Pudge was rooting around in your bag, for what seemed like the longest time, but he was trying to bury the ball in the bottom of your bag, so you could find his gift to you later. His “Thank you” to you for his ultimate freedom, and we thank you too.Julie & Bill
Dear Dr. Marchitelli,
We would like to thank you for your hospice care of our beloved 13 year old German Shepherd Dog, Bruno, which was followed by your compassionate handling of the euthanasia of him at our home. There were many difficult events you helped us with during the time leading up to his eventual release from pain.
Your exam of Bruno at our home was handled with loving care, and we appreciated your providing him with some different medication to help with his chronic ills. As we reached the decision to end his suffering, you stayed in constant contact, giving us advice, without intruding on our decision-making. The phone calls, e mails and visits were so valuable to us in this difficult time.
photo-5We are very grateful to you for helping us say goodbye to our Bruno at home, where he felt safe and loved. You gave us the opportunity to do this privately, which is important. Thank you for making Bruno comfortable and for explaining the euthanasia process before it took place. As Bruno’s “parents”, we were able to grieve openly at home. Your care extended to us past the day of Bruno’s release from this earth, and for that, we are also grateful.
Again, we say thank you for all the care and attention you provided to Bruno and to us. We have already mentioned you and your services to our vet and would recommend you to anyone who has a pet nearing the end of life on this earth.Nancy Russell-Forsythe, Ph. D. & Greg Forsythe, Ph. D.
Our 12 year old Springer Spaniel, Bella, hated going to the vet’s office, even in the best of times. The day after Christmas last year, “it was time to do the right thing” by the dog we loved so much.
As she aged and congestive heart failure wore her down, we knew taking her to the vet’s office would be hard on us and harder on her. So we asked Dr. Marchitelli to drive 25 miles out to our house and, in front of the roaring wood stove with Bella on her favorite pillow and her head in my lap, Dr. Marchitelli put her into her slumber. Not scared or traumatized in any way, Bella calmly left our world. We appreciated very much Dr. Marchitelli’s professionalism and compassion. She sensed our need to “keep it light” and it was met.
Thank you so much for your support last week. I have to stay that was the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced and you were so good with my daughter Heather and her Baby Mokka Daze. She will be so missed but I am sure still running and playing with her friends that were recently taken too soon as well.Karen Cates Herndon
Dear Dr. Marchitelli,
Thank you for helping me to be with my beloved Abbey at the time of her death. It was not something I had ever been encouraged to do before, and I am so grateful that you made it possible. Everything you did felt very gentle and kind for us both. Being able to share this last part of Abbey’s life in our own home meant a lot to us. You made a big difference at a difficult time. Again, thank you.
Dr. Ballas came to my home and helped my cat Boris make his transition. She was so kind and compassionate. I could not have asked for a better person to help my beloved cat and me. Boris passed away quickly and peacefully on his bed. He was gone in what seemed like seconds. And I didn’t have to traumatize him by putting him in his carrier, driving him to the vet and having strangers handle him. We were both beside him, talking to him and petting him as he slipped away. Having lost many loved ones in my life, I only wish that there were a Dr. Ballas to help people die, too.Mary Sesak